Six Things to Know about Adoption
1. Remember, this is a life-long process. The child/youth you adopt will be yours forever, just like any child born to you.
2. Be sure to think about this process carefully. Do your own research into the adoption process. Ask questions of everyone you know, research on the internet, read books, make phone calls, attend information meetings or anything else which will help you make an informed decision about your adoption process and journey.
3. If you already have birth children, consider how adding a new family member(s) will affect them. How will it affect your relationship with them? How will it affect other members of your extended family – are they on board with your plans to move forward with the adoption process? Will they be a support to your family during the process and after the adoption has been finalized?
4. What kind of support do you have for your family? Are their friends, family, neighborhood members, etc. who would be able to help you in times of need – babysitting for your birth children while you attend training, babysitting for your birth children and your adopted children when you need a “night out,” help to decorate your adopted child’s room, help to make necessary changes in your home if your adopted child's needs require them, etc.
5. There are many parts of the adoption process. It does not happen overnight. It requires work on your part to decide what type of adoption best fits you and your family; complete paperwork; gather necessary information; participate in training; actively take part in the home study; patiently wait for the child/children that will be a good match for your family.
6. Don’t be afraid to ask for help. Some of the strongest people are those who are aware that they need help and aren't afraid to ask for it. Don’t wait until it’s too late and you don’t have the strength to put into the task. There are lots of resources out there, but they can’t come to you unless you let them know you need them.
Now get going and enjoy the journey!